In the world of feelings, there is a seemingly ordinary but very destructive mistakes, this error is like a silent spread of the tumor, gradually erode the feelings between couples, and ultimately lead to the parting of the ways, this error is to “ignore the daily small fortune”.
At the beginning of a relationship, everything is so beautiful. Two people are like two mutually attractive magnets, each encounter seems to be a grand holiday celebration. The other party inadvertently a small action, such as gently for you to smooth your hair, can make your heart overflowing with ripples of happiness.
At that time, love is like the spring flowers, blooming. However, as the wheels of time slowly pass, the days become as dull as water, and those subtle cares and sweet moments that were once regarded as treasures are mercilessly drowned out by the waves of daily chores.
It's as if we've fallen into a kind of inertia, accustomed to each other's companionship and dedication, and then feel at ease with all this as a natural right, and even began to use a magnifying glass to scrutinize each other's body imperfections.
Take Xiaohong and Xiaoming for example.
They used to be an enviable couple in the eyes of everyone, always snuggling together sweetly when they were out and about, and their affectionate eyes seemed to be able to melt the air around them.
However, I do not know when, the situation began to take a sharp turn for the worse. Xiaohong heart is full of grievances, she felt that Xiaoming is no longer as thoughtful as before, her birthday is forgotten, those full of surprises of the small romantic also no longer exist. Xiaoming, on the other hand, feels that Xiaohong has become incomprehensible, often because of trivial matters on the angry. So, quarrels as a routine, the temperature of the relationship also plummeted all the way, and ultimately the two can only helplessly choose to break up.
After the breakup of a chance encounter, so that they have the opportunity to re-examine this lost relationship. Xiaoming realized that, in the busy work and life under pressure, he really neglected the feelings of Xiaohong, those who once let the relationship sweet heating small details are their own forgotten. Xiaohong also said frankly, in the accumulation of disappointment after disappointment, her faith in the relationship has been shaken. It dawned on them that the mistake of ignoring the small daily pleasures, seemingly insignificant, was the culprit in destroying the relationship, while those small pleasures were originally the key threads that held the relationship together.
So, in a relationship or marriage, how can we regain these small pleasures, to prevent neglect and let the relationship to the end?
In This Guide
For one thing, gratitude is essential.
Never take the other person's contribution for granted and always have a grateful heart. When the other person for you to cook a meal, or for you to wash a pile of dirty clothes, or just in your body and mind when you are tired to give you a warm hug, you have to sincerely say that “thank you”. This simple two words, but contains a deep respect and cherish each other.
Secondly, the freshness is crucial.
The reason why the freshness of the early stage of the relationship is unforgettable is that both parties are full of curiosity about each other at that time, like exploring the mysterious treasure to understand each other. Over the course of a long relationship, we can explore new and uncharted territories and try new activities together, such as traveling to unfamiliar places and experiencing different customs; or learning a new skill together, such as painting or cooking. Doing so can not only deepen mutual understanding, but also add brilliant colors to life.
Third, learning to listen and express yourself is also key.
Often times, the reason we overlook each other's little blessings is because we don't really quiet our hearts to listen to each other. We need to put down our electronic devices, shield ourselves from outside distractions, and wholeheartedly feel each other's emotions and needs. And, it's also important to be brave enough to say what we think and feel so that the other person is clear about our expectations and bottom line.
Fourth, tolerance and understanding is the guarantee of a long-lasting relationship.
In the long-term companionship, friction and quarrels are unavoidable. But as long as we can tolerate each other's shortcomings and understand each other's faults, we can make the relationship rock solid. After all, no one is perfect, and we are all on the road to growth.
This easy to make mistakes in the relationship, often hidden in the place we take for granted. But as long as we are attentive to experience, to cherish, to operate with care, we can avoid this small fortunate neglect become the root cause of the relationship breakup. May all lovers in the world can harvest in the daily small fortune full of happiness and sweetness.