Love, that is a poetic and dreamy journey, like the stars twinkling in the vast universe, each one represents a unique destiny and possibilities. In the pursuit of love on the long road, we all desire to become the person who can make the person you love deeply engraved in your heart, never forget. This, master the skillful “contact” method is like holding the key to open the door of love.
In This Guide
Interest as a link, weaving the emotional satin
in the vast world of interpersonal communication, hobbies and interests as a lighthouse, can illuminate each other's hearts and minds of the road. When we want to enter a person's inner world, keenly capture each other's interests is a crucial first step. This requires us to be attentive and observant, like an explorer searching for treasures in unknown territory.
We can pick up clues in everyday bits and pieces. Maybe it's an art-filled painting that the other person shared on social media, or a niche movie that they happened to mention in conversation. These seemingly unintentional details are actually windows into the other person's interests. Once you find these points of interest, you should skillfully turn them into keys to unlock the conversation.
For example, if the other person loves photography, you can share with him those unknown but mesmerizingly beautiful photographic locations in your travels, or tell him about an unforgettable morning spent photographing the sunrise.
Such an exchange is like throwing a stone on a lake of interest, which will stir up layers of resonance ripples. The two parties will quickly draw closer together because of their common interests, as if they have found their soulmates who were lost in the sea of people. This resonance can not only deepen each other's good feelings, but also provide fertile soil for the growth of love.
Show self-worth, such as flowers emit dark fragrance
In the garden of love, everyone is a unique flower, have their own fragrance and color. In the process of “contact” each other, wisdom to show self-worth and maintain a sense of mystery, as flowers gently swaying in the breeze, exuding a charming fragrance, attracting each other constantly close.
We don't have to be in a hurry to show everything about ourselves to the other person without reservation. You can start from some small aspects, such as in the work of a small project success, do not have to describe the whole process in detail, just lightly say “recently in the work of a small gain”; or to mention that they are learning an interesting new skills, such as “I have been learning pottery, I feel particularly interesting”. I've been learning ceramics, and it's very interesting. This kind of moderate display can let the other party feel your charm, but not because of too much exposure and seem too blunt.
At the same time, you should also keep some mysterious parts for yourself. For example, occasionally bring up a dream you've been harboring, which can be an unfinished travel plan to explore some ancient and mysterious country; or a dream about creating art but haven't had the time to realize it yet.
These unfinished dreams are like chapters of a mysterious story waiting to be explored. Such a sense of mystery will attract the other party like a magnet, stimulating their inner curiosity and desire to explore you.
Pay attention to the details, with the warmth to weave the net of love
Love is a beautiful picture scroll woven by countless subtle details. A simple greeting, an unintentional smile, a carefully prepared gift, these seemingly small details, actually contains great power.
When focusing on a special day, such as a birthday or an anniversary that means a lot to the person, a gift is a great way to show that you care. The gift doesn't need to be expensive or extravagant, but it should show that you care.
It can be a book related to the other person's interests, with a poetic and cozy note, on which you write your blessings to the other person and share your own unique insights into this interest; or a trinket with special significance, where each element can be associated with the other person's preferences or memories.
In addition to special moments, the details of everyday life should not be overlooked. When the other person encounters difficulties at work, do not simply give generalized comfort, but really understand the problem, provide practical advice and support.
This is based on sincerity and concern for the details, like a trickle of water, silently moisturizing the other side of the heart. These small streams of warmth will accumulate in each other's hearts into an ocean of love, so that each other unforgettable.
Maintain a moderate distance, like stars shining in their respective orbits
In this ever-changing world, we are all looking for a way to get along just right. On the scales of love, distance is an indispensable weight. The right distance can add a mystery and beauty to love, like two distant stars, each emitting a unique light, in the night sky.
If the “contact” each other too often, like a taut string, it is easy for the other party to feel the pressure, so as to produce the psychology of avoidance. We need to learn to adjust the frequency and mode of contact according to the pace and needs of the other person.
When the other person is in a busy work or study state, respect each other's space, do not overly disturb, to understand and tolerant attitude to give each other enough space to deal with their own affairs. And when the other party needs company or confide in, like warm sunshine timely appeared in the other side, give support and comfort.
This moderate distance grasp is an expression of art, not only to maintain each other in the emotional and life independence, but also to let the flame of love in the distance of the breeze more and more burning, more mellow and long-lasting.
In the long river of love, let the favorite person to oneself is not an overnight thing. This is an emotional journey that needs to be carefully watered and cared for with heart and wisdom.
Sincerity is our navigational star throughout, which will guide us to make every appropriate choice; and pay attention to details is like a little star, although small but can be converged into a bright starry sky, illuminating the road of love; to maintain the self-worth and mystery is the preservative of love, so that the flowers of love will always be delicate and colorful. May we all find a soul mate for life in this challenging and surprising journey of love.