In This Guide
The Pain of Unrelieved Sleep
The article opens by describing the serious impact of lost love on sleep through one's own experience. Once waking up from each other's arms and never sleeping again may seem like an exaggerated expression, but it is a common experience for many people who have lost their love. Waking up many times during sleep, each time accompanied by a strong sense of loneliness, as if sleep was also cut to pieces by pain.
Cases of men and women who treated their lost love differently
The Open-minded Ex
Tells the story of a friend's lost love. The girl broke up because of the unpleasantness of getting along, the boy soon had a new relationship progress, know the ambiguous object, blind date and even have a stable dating partner. The girl, on the other hand, has not been able to walk out of the shadow of the lost love, even if the family to introduce the object is not interested, she said that she did not want to fall in love because she did not know how to start loving a person, for fear of being hurt again, even if rationally know that the life of a partner is more interesting, but emotionally delayed to take the next step, reflecting the different speed of recovery and state of mind of men and women in the aftermath of the loss of love.
Exes who are too deep in their memories to get out of their own way
Another girl broke up with her boyfriend for cheating on her. On the surface, she acted very spontaneous, deleting all of the boy's contact information as if she wanted to completely cut ties with her past relationship. However, after a large box full of memories (photos, letters, etc.) was knocked over during the move, she guarded the memories like a madwoman, and when she saw that the letterhead recording their relationship was crushed by a car and disappeared, her reaction showed that she had actually been in love with her ex for a long, long time, and that even though outwardly resolute, she was still deeply in love with him deep down inside.
Commonly traumatizing manifestations after falling out of love
After falling out of love, you will be conditioned to feel sad about a lot of things. Walking through the park where you once strolled together, hearing the theme song of a movie you watched together, passing by a restaurant where you ate together or seeing a brand where you once bought something for each other will prevent you from crying.
I will wake up early in the morning because I miss each other to suffocate, insomnia at night will not stop shedding tears, and will cry many times for no reason, but will not laugh once. Even if you delete the contact, but every night can not help but check each other's dynamics, from the microblogging name to the circle of friends, this ambivalence, both hope that the other side is doing well and angry because the other side is doing well, in the end, simply can not forget the past feelings.
A deep analysis of the pain of lost love
1. **The discrepancy between expectation and reality in love**
- In love, people often have a lot of beautiful fantasies, and these fantasies are shattered after a breakup. Many women used to think that their love will be smooth sailing, for example, do not believe that the girl initiative will not have a good result, in love naively envisioned the future, but once the loss of love, only to find that the reality of the huge gap with the expectations of the pain is unbearable.
2. **Inertia dependence in love***
- All kinds of performance after falling in love also reflects the inertia dependence in love. For example, in daily life, because of the existence of love, people have formed a habitual mode of getting along with each other, and after the loss of love, this mode is broken, in the dinner, watching movies, shopping and other kinds of daily activities will involuntarily think of each other, because of the habit of each other's existence, so after the other party left, life becomes disorganized and difficult to adapt.
Moreover, even after deleting the contact information, the psychological dependence on the other person has not disappeared, which is why they will constantly check the other person's dynamics, trying to find their own place in the other person's world.
3. **Self-perception deficit in love***
- Lovelorn people also face a lack of self-perception. After falling out of love, they will doubt that they can't fall in love and don't know how to start a new relationship. Like the girl who rejected all the blind dates, she realizes that she has lost the ability to love someone, this change in self-perception is one of the important effects of falling out of love.