"Are you free tonight? Let's have dinner together." Do you often send messages like this, only to find that girls always reply very perfunctory, or even ignore you directly? If you always hit a wall, then today's article, you must not miss! As a relationship blogger, experience has taught me that asking a girl out to dinner is not an easy thing to do, it not only tests your expression, but also tests your emotional intelligence and understanding of the needs of girls. So, how can you improve your success rate? I will give you detailed analysis and advice from several aspects to help you ease into the first step of dating.
Tip # 1: Lay an emotional foundation before going out to dinner
Many people think that about a girl to eat is just a simple "send an invitation", but the emotional foundation behind this can not be ignored. Can you feel a girl's mood and needs? Were your interactions intimate enough before the dinner date? Girls don't go out to dinner alone with random strangers or distant friends. If your relationship is still superficial, then she will definitely reject you.
1. Daily interaction: pay more attention to her circle of friends or news, and give her messages and likes. Remember, you don't always have to ask, "How was your day?" Use more interesting questions or comments to bring you closer together.
2. Know her interests: Girls are attracted to people who know their interests. During the conversation, you can subtly mention her favorite restaurant, cuisine, or food she recently mentioned, which will show that you are attentive and make her feel comfortable.
# 2: Choose the right time and restaurant
Many people neglect to choose the time and place to meet for dinner. Eating may seem like a simple invitation, but the time you choose, the restaurant you choose, and even the attitude you display can affect whether a girl is willing to say yes.
3. Avoid her busy period: If she is stressed at work or has other commitments during this time, making an appointment to eat at a random time will not only be rejected, but will make her feel that you are not considerate enough. It's best to learn about her free time through daily conversations before deciding on the timing of a dinner date.
4. Pick a place she's likely to like: a restaurant she's shared about on social media, or you know she's partial to a certain cuisine. This will not only make her feel that you care, but also increase her interest.
5. Avoid overly casual places: Avoid restaurants that are too simple or generic. If you're not sure what she likes, choose a restaurant with an elegant environment and a moderate atmosphere. For example, a warm western restaurant or a creative restaurant with characteristics can not only appear tasteful, but also bring her a pleasant dining experience.
Breaking point 3: Invite with skill
Have you ever asked a girl out to dinner and texted her, "Let's have dinner together?" This is often the easiest and most overlooked way to do it. If you want to increase your success rate, try inviting in a more creative, emotional way.
6. Personalize the invitation: Instead of simply saying "dinner" or "dinner," try to describe the situation of the date so that she can form a picture in her mind. For example: "This restaurant is very popular these days and I think you'll really like it. Why don't we try it together?"
7. Give options: Girls mostly like to have some control over their choices. What if you simply gave her an option: "How about dinner tonight?" Her choices are too narrow, and she's prone to stress. You can offer her a few options: "Are you free tonight? We could go to that restaurant you recommended, or I have a new place to discover, what do you say?"
Girls tend to want to be around people who are sincere and natural, not those who are too nervous or too full of themselves. Therefore, when asking her to dinner, your attitude is very important.
How to be natural and sincere?
8. Avoid undue pressure: Don't put too much weight on the dinner date, and don't let her feel that your expectations are too high. Bring it up in a light-hearted, humorous way: "I know you're probably busy, but if you have time, I'd really like to go to that restaurant with you and try it."
9. Show attention to her, not your own needs: Many people show an obvious "I'd love to meet you alone" urgency when asking a girl out, and this sense of need can make the other person feel uncomfortable. On the other hand, if you are relaxed and sincere during the dinner date, a woman will be more likely to let her guard down and accept your invitation.
Learn to respond to feedback from girls
Girls may show some hesitation or reservation when accepting your invitation. You need to learn to read what she's really thinking from what she's saying and respond to it when appropriate.
What to make of her reaction?
10. If she hesitates: This usually means she's interested in your offer, but not quite sure. At this point, you can offer more options as appropriate, or again express your willingness to make her feel comfortable.
11. If she says no outright: Don't get upset or over-explain. Maybe she does have other reasons or isn't interested enough in you. Be polite, respect her choice, and avoid further pestering.
Conclusion: A successful date begins with a "meal.
Asking a girl out to dinner may be a new starting point for your relationship, or it may be a further deepening of her impression of you. However, a successful invitation is more than a simple agreement. It requires you to understand the girl's emotional needs, respect her choices, and show that you are attentive and sincere. If you put enough effort into these areas, your chances of success will be greatly improved.
Try these strategies the next time you ask her out to dinner, and you may be pleasantly surprised at how quickly and warmly she responds!