Recently, the weather is getting colder and colder, the circle of friends is full of “frozen into a dog”, “fall pants warning” wail. As a boyfriend or pursuer, if you only say “drink more hot water”, it is too insincere! Today, the old king will share with you a few tricks to care about the girl's secret, to ensure that she can also feel your warmth in the cold wind, and even more on your head!
Don't just say “drink more hot water”! I'm not sure if you're going to be able to do that, but I'm sure you're going to be able to.
A lot of guys think, care for girls is not to remind her to wear more clothes, drink more hot water, in fact, a big mistake! These words girls have long been tired of hearing, the real high intelligence care, is to let her feel “you know me” “you care about me”.
In This Guide
- Scenario care: turn “drink more hot water” into “action guide”.
- Future Promise: Draw her a “warm winter” pie
- Actions are more important than words! These details make her feel your love
- High emotional intelligence care, but also to avoid these “minefields”!
- High emotional intelligence care, but also know how to “look at the person under the dish”.
- The ultimate secret: let her feel “you are warmer than the weather.”
Scenario care: turn “drink more hot water” into “action guide”.
When she tells you, “It's cold today,” don't just say, “Drink plenty of hot water. You can say: “Today is minus five degrees it, you go out remember to wear a scarf, do not show neck! Also, drink hot milk tea, don't drink ice like those Netflix, your aunt period is coming, be careful of stomach pain!”
Why is this effective? Because you not only care about whether she is cold or not, but also help her plan specific measures to keep warm, even her physiological period is taken into account. This kind of detail control care, which girl can not like?
Humorous concern: use flirting to dissolve embarrassment
If she is afraid of the cold, you can tease her: “You this small body, winter is not to wear three layers of down jacket ah? Do you want me to buy you a baby warmer as a 'human-shaped warmer'?”
If she complains that she is freezing into a dog, you can reply, “Come over here, let me use my body heat to give you a ‘recharge’, guaranteed to be more effective than a baby warmer!”
Humor eases the tension and makes her think you're both sweet and funny. Girls like to be with people who make them happy, so keep that in mind!
Future Promise: Draw her a “warm winter” pie
You can romantically say: “When I have money, I will buy you a house with underfloor heating, and hire a private chef to cook you tonic soup every day, so your hands and feet won't be cold in winter.
Or more practical: “Next time we meet, I'll buy you a good baby warmer, thermos cup in advance, and then take you to eat hot pot, guaranteed to make you warm from head to toe!”
Girls love to hear “future plans”, especially those related to you. You let her see hope, she will naturally have more expectations of you!
In fact, if you want to catch a girl, as long as you can chat, you have 80% chance to catch her. Because of the relationship, the core is a “talk” word, and girls talk about life, talk about the heart, talk about the future, as long as you can talk to her, there will be opportunities for development. If you have a stupid mouth, chatting straight man, may wish to come to my public number to hunt for the heart of the old king, I will share with you a top chat mind map, so that you can master the core secrets of chatting, when to humor, when to chat with a high IQ, as well as a set of top words, so that you can cope with the different scenarios of chatting can be easy to handle, easy to talk to girls to the hand.
Actions are more important than words! These details make her feel your love
The light talk is not practicing a false trick, high emotional intelligence care, not only to speak, but also to do things. The following several details, do, girls absolutely impressed with you!
Check the weather in advance, send her a “weather warning”.
When you wake up every morning, the first thing you do is not to brush the Jitterbug, but to check the weather in her city. If it's getting cold, send her a message: “It's getting cold today, remember to add more clothes! If you freeze and catch a cold, I'll be heartbroken!”
Tip: If she's out of town, you can check the local weather forecast for her, send her a screenshot, and include a message that says, “Take care of yourself over there, and don't let me worry about you.”
Suddenly “flash” to send warmth
If the conditions allow, you can suddenly appear in her company downstairs when she is off work, holding a hot milk tea and a warm baby, and say to her: “Today is too cold, I am afraid that you are freezing, I came to give you warm!”
This kind of “sudden attack” type of care, can most impress the girl's heart. She will feel that you are willing to give your time and energy for her, and this kind of sincerity is more effective than any love words.
Help her to buy “winter magic”
Girls are afraid of cold hands and feet in winter! You can secretly buy her a pair of touch screen gloves, a smart hand warmer, or a super warm down jacket, and then deliver it to her with a card: “Winter is so cold, I would like to be your ‘warm baby’, 24 hours online heating!
Tip: If you're on a budget, you can also hand-knit a scarf (don't know how? There are tutorials online!) , or write her a handwritten letter telling her, “Although my hands are clumsy, my heart is hot.”
High emotional intelligence care, but also to avoid these “minefields”!
Brothers, care for girls should also pay attention to the method, some words said, but will make her more angry! The following several minefields, do not step on!
Don't say, “Everyone else is fine, but you're afraid of the cold.”
Some guys think that girls who are afraid of the cold are “pretentious” and will say, “Look at other girls wearing short skirts, but you are wrapped up in dumplings!” The killing power of this sentence can be big, which is the same as directly to her that: “You are worse than others, you are not normal!” The girl will definitely be furious when she hears this!
Don't force her to wear clothes you don't like.
Some guys are so controlling that they ask girls, “You have to wear pants!” “You can't wear short skirts!” Realize that girls wear clothes for their own pleasure, not to please you! You can suggest, but never order.
Don't compare her with others
“Look at XX's girlfriend, she's never cold in winter!” “Can you learn from others and wear more clothes?” This kind of words are more hurtful than a knife! The girl will feel that you do not love her at all, only love “other people's girlfriends”!
High emotional intelligence care, but also know how to “look at the person under the dish”.
Each girl's character is different, care for the way to be different from person to person. Lao Wang taught you a few tricks “to see people under the dish” skills:
To the “arrogant type” of girl: to be “silent”.
This kind of girl's mouth is hard and heart is soft, obviously heart is very touched, but the mouth said: “Who want you to care ah!” At this time, you do not fight with her hard, but smiled and said: “OK, OK, I'm nosy, next time do not care about you!” Then you can continue to care about her the next day, so that she can slowly get used to your presence.
To the “sensitive” girl: to be “detail control”.
This kind of girl has a delicate mind and is prone to overthinking. When you are concerned about her, you must make the details clear, such as: “I checked the weather in your area, today's minimum temperature is minus 3 degrees, you wear that down jacket with a fur collar, remember to zipper it up, don't let the wind pour in.”
To the “big-hearted” type of girl: be “direct and rough”.
This kind of girl is so nervous that she won't understand if you beat around the bush. Just say, “It's cold today, put on some pants.” Instead, it's more effective.
The ultimate secret: let her feel “you are warmer than the weather.”
Brothers, the ultimate goal of high emotional intelligence care, is to make her feel that “you are warmer than the weather”. How to do it?
Make her feel needed
You can say, “It's so cold today, without you, I probably wouldn't be able to eat.” Or, “It's so cold in winter, I only feel warm when you're by my side.”
Make her feel “pampered”.
Give her a nickname, like “Little Warmer” or “Little Sun”, and call her every day, “My little warmer, did you keep warm today?”
Make her feel “valued”.
On her birthday/anniversary, give her a “warm winter gift box” filled with baby warmers, thermos cups, and plush socks, with a message: “Let me warm you up this winter.”
Conclusion of the old king
Brothers, care for girls is not a “task”, but an “opportunity”. You care about her with all your heart, she will naturally open her heart to you; you perfunctory her, she will also be as cold as ice to you. Remember, the core of the high IQ care is to “go to the heart”, rather than “set”. When you put her in the heart, even if it is just a simple sentence “today is cold, wear more”, can let her feel your love.
Finally, the old king again send you a “universal love words”: “winter is cold, but also cold my heart; I am here, you will always be the warmest one.”