Love is not in a hurry, love is true.
In this fast-paced age, it seems that we are always in a rush to find the answer to love.
As soon as you meet, you want to determine the relationship, and just know each other, you look forward to eternity, but you ignore that love needs time to precipitate, and you need patience to operate.
Too many couples, because eager to succeed, and in the quarrel to kill each other's feelings.
The love that can go on for a long time is not a momentary passion, but a long stream of companionship.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, there were two lovers, the man was named Zhang Sheng and the woman was named Yingying.
In the process of getting along, they are not anxious, slowly understand each other, and feel each other's joys and sorrows.
Despite some ups and downs, their love grew stronger.
As the saying goes, "slow work makes fine work", so is love.
One day to determine the relationship, maybe you don't really know each other; A month to say that love is deep, maybe just a momentary impulse.
Or take your time, let the love in the flow of time slowly fermentation, become more mellow.
It may take a year, it may take ten years, but so what? It doesn't matter if it's you in the end.
The most romantic thing is not the instant heart, but the long-term company; The most sincere love is not a temporary passion, but a long flow of warmth.
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Take time to get along and understand each other.
Someone said, "Love is like a dance. It takes two people to work together."
If one side goes too fast and the other side goes too slow, the rhythm will be lost and the pace will be chaotic.
In love, we often get angry because of some small things and become dissatisfied with each other.
But in fact, everyone has their own pace and way, we should respect each other's differences, rather than rushing to change each other.
Take a look at the love story of Tang Dynasty poet Li Shangyin and his wife, we know why to give each other time and space.
They support and understand each other in life, although they have experienced many hardships, but their love has always been rock-solid.
When we are in a hurry, we tend to ignore each other's feelings and only think about our own needs.
This way of getting along will only make each other more and more tired and estranged.
Allow each other to take it slow, as long as you love each other, then every moment will be meaningful. Even if there are arguments, conflicts, that's part of love.
Many couples, after experiencing ups and downs, only cherish each other more. You know, these experiences are testimony to growth.
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Run in no hurry, grow together.
There is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: "The gentleman is harmonious but different."
In love, we will encounter all kinds of problems, need to constantly adjust and adjust.
But this is a long process and cannot be rushed.
The love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu in A Dream of Red Mansions is a good example.
In the process of getting along, they experienced countless quarrels and misunderstandings, but they never gave up on each other.
They grow together in running-in, and finally understand each other's hearts.
The maturity of a relationship requires time to precipitate and the efforts of both sides.
Don't hold back because of temporary difficulties, don't give up because of temporary contradictions.
As long as we love each other, there is hope.
Look around those happy couples, they are in the running-in slowly find each other's rhythm, become a better themselves.
About the harmony of love, the two sides need to tolerate each other, encourage each other, and make progress together.
True love, is in the running-in become more firm, more beautiful.
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The Analects of Confucius says, "Haste makes waste."
The development of a relationship is gradual, and so is the growth of a person.
We only lose more by rushing for quick gains.
Wait for a flower, need to wait patiently; Keeping a relationship requires careful management.
We manage love, not only to enjoy the sweetness of the moment, but also to have long-term planning and goals.
Take your time, rather than rushing for an outcome, enjoy the beauty of the process.
Take it slow. Instead of hurting each other in an argument, communicate calmly.